Doomed from the Beginning?

Doomed from the Start?

When you first start dating a man or woman who you have been attracted to, you might be all starry-eyed and dreamy. But as time goes by you realise the relationship was a mistake and then wish you had seen the problems right from the start. While there is no way of knowing in an instant, it is possible to gauge whether a relationship is over even before it has begun, if only you look for the signs. What are those signs?

Oh! My problems

When you first start dating, there are several things that you can talk about; what the person does, their likes and dislikes, etc. However, if your date can only talk about their unending problems and how hopeless a place the world is, please back off. For, you are probably heading for a relationship that will end up being bitter.

Stood you up

If there is a genuine reason, he or she deserves a second chance. But if it is a silly reason and they did not even bother to inform you, walk away now. Don't wait for a few more stand-ups before realising this person is only full of excuses and can't respect someone enough to at least inform them that he or she won't show up.

Secrets

When two people get together and the relationship is new, there is no reason that one would want to keep it a secret, unless they are unsure about it. This is a sign that your man or woman is not sure about you and wants to buy time before making the relationship 'official.' But if they are being evasive, watch out, maybe there is a third party involved.

Friends disapprove

Your friends probably know you better than anyone else. If they are apprehensive about the new man or woman in your life, listen to them. Hopefully your friends are the kind of people who look out for you. If your closest friend, who you trust and will only have your best interests at heart warns you - don't be blinded by love; listen to him or her.

Lying

A sure sign that your relationship isn't going to get very far is when there are lies being said right from the beginning. If you find out that your new partner has lied to you about something, remember that he or she probably has the capacity to tell bigger lies later on as well. A relationship cannot survive without trust, and only a fool would trust a liar. So be aware of how much your partner is willing to bend the truth. When a relationship goes wrong it can cause a lot of hurt and anger. Of course, it is hard to be guarded when you're in love, but you can at least try to avoid heart break by reading the signs.

-- ALAGARAJAN --