How to Get Your Crush (for Boys and Girls)

Do you have a crush? Here's what to do.

Smile and occasionally look at them from across the room, then look away. Repeat until they smile back or approach you. If the smile seems a bit full on, try glancing at them, then look away for a split second. If they are interested they will most likely still be looking at you. If so, you could try a smile or if you're daring, approach him or her.

Go up and introduce yourself to him or her. Guys/girls normally will turn on to you if you act friendly and flirt at a minimum, not if you full out lunge at them, which may freak them out. Be confident, not cocky! Just be yourself. People relax a lot better if the other person is relaxed as well. Don't press, keep the conversation small, you just met. Be calm, cool, and collected.

If you are not so sure that they like you, ask them to do something outside of school; possibly bring them to a park or with your friend and possibly his or hers as well. Then if things are going well ask if they want to go for a walk with you or something. Just you and them; nobody else.

If you feel that you're okay with it, tell them how you feel. Make sure they like you too; if not, things could get awkward.

Do your research about them, learn their favorite sport, hobby, etc. People are more attracted to those who are smart and those who take an interest in them. Read their Myspace or Facebook profile for interest if they have one.

Make sure to have gum or mints. No one likes bad breath.

Ask them out! They are usually hoping for you to do it (if you're a guy). Girls on the other hand might really want you, but they are sometimes a bit more nervous and don't want to seem "pushy & aggressive".

If they reject you, you can always have a clever comeback! Like if you go up to them and ask,"Do you like me?" and they say,"Yes, as a friend." then you could say back,"Good. Me too. I was just asking because I thought you didn't like me as a friend..." and so on and so forth.

Maybe if things are going well and you and the boy or girl have been talking in school for a while, you can get their number!

Flirt with other boys/girls! If you really like them then flirt in front of them. This gives you the chance to see their reaction. If they laugh or smile they probably have no interest in you, but be careful they may be hiding their emotions.

1. Sometimes, it is a bad idea to tell all of your friends you like someone. The best of friends can go ahead and tell your crush without your permission.

2. Try new looks; a new haircut can do wonders to your confidence.

3. A friendly smile is your best weapon.

4. Try to make them laugh; humor is the best aphrodisiac.

5. Do not insult and pick fights when you are around him or her; petty malice is not attractive.

6. Do not hang all over your crush, he or she might think it is weird. Being too clingy is a turn off.

7. Do not try to annoy your crush, but don't shower him/her too much in compliments either. Balance is good.

8. Do not stalk your crush. For example, having pictures of him or her, and following your crush are common stalking behaviors.

9. If your crush already has feelings for another person, it is okay to still talk, unless they find it annoying. Wait for a more appropriate time.

10. If you think the person returns your feelings, casually say or hint your true feelings. Do not get emotional with a big confession. If your crush does not feel the same way as you do, then just smile and walk away.

-- ALAGARAJAN --

Doomed from the Beginning?

Doomed from the Start?

When you first start dating a man or woman who you have been attracted to, you might be all starry-eyed and dreamy. But as time goes by you realise the relationship was a mistake and then wish you had seen the problems right from the start. While there is no way of knowing in an instant, it is possible to gauge whether a relationship is over even before it has begun, if only you look for the signs. What are those signs?

Oh! My problems

When you first start dating, there are several things that you can talk about; what the person does, their likes and dislikes, etc. However, if your date can only talk about their unending problems and how hopeless a place the world is, please back off. For, you are probably heading for a relationship that will end up being bitter.

Stood you up

If there is a genuine reason, he or she deserves a second chance. But if it is a silly reason and they did not even bother to inform you, walk away now. Don't wait for a few more stand-ups before realising this person is only full of excuses and can't respect someone enough to at least inform them that he or she won't show up.

Secrets

When two people get together and the relationship is new, there is no reason that one would want to keep it a secret, unless they are unsure about it. This is a sign that your man or woman is not sure about you and wants to buy time before making the relationship 'official.' But if they are being evasive, watch out, maybe there is a third party involved.

Friends disapprove

Your friends probably know you better than anyone else. If they are apprehensive about the new man or woman in your life, listen to them. Hopefully your friends are the kind of people who look out for you. If your closest friend, who you trust and will only have your best interests at heart warns you - don't be blinded by love; listen to him or her.

Lying

A sure sign that your relationship isn't going to get very far is when there are lies being said right from the beginning. If you find out that your new partner has lied to you about something, remember that he or she probably has the capacity to tell bigger lies later on as well. A relationship cannot survive without trust, and only a fool would trust a liar. So be aware of how much your partner is willing to bend the truth. When a relationship goes wrong it can cause a lot of hurt and anger. Of course, it is hard to be guarded when you're in love, but you can at least try to avoid heart break by reading the signs.

-- ALAGARAJAN --

Seduction Guide

Your six-point seduction guide

1) Reach into his pocket for the keys: Well, more than just the keys. The lesson is: Never underestimate the power of an unexpected touch. Just by stimulating your partner's nerve endings when they're not prepared for it, you create a positive physical connection that leaves your lover wanting more.

2) Keep him out of the loop: Remember, the less you tell him, the more interested he'll become in you. So to hook him in, when you're chatting, give him the conclusion of the conversation first. For instance, "I got the job," and then stop and wait. You've gotten his attention, now let them draw out of the details.

3) Make small changes for big results: The trick to activate desire is to depart from your everyday look. Maybe take a break from your trousers and move around in an evening gown.

4) Compliment your lover the right way: There's a trick to buttering up your lover right. Make the compliment obscure and exclusive and it will sound more genuine. He may dismiss your flattery with a wave of the hand, but deep down, he'll be loving every second of it.

5) Give your lover a sensory flashback: Think about when you first fell for your partner. What reminds you both of that time. Figure it out and you've found the secret to conjuring up that new-love rush. Your lover will experience something that they associate with falling in love with you; those intense, sensual memories will trigger a positive a physical reaction and generate instant longing.

6) Check out competition: Love works in bizzare ways. If you want to renew your partner's passion for you, slyly capture the eye of someone attractive. It adds a bit of jealousy and a lot of attention.

To smoke your lover's interest, trail someone with your gaze or flash a flirty smile at one of his friends when you know you're being watched. And it never hurts to make an extra bit of effort with your looks when you know you'll be in a situation where others will admire you. Just the possibility of others eyeing you all night will definitely make them appreciate that they're lucky to have you.

-- ALAGARAJAN --