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Sunday, March 8, 2009

Make A Call After Your First Date

When You Are Supposed To Make A Call After Your First Date

Though it may seem like trivia, “when to call after the first date?” is an important question. Calling too soon may make you appear to be the clingy sort. On the other hand, waiting too long before you make a call may cast you in the light of a person who doesn’t care much.

Once the date is over, the first impression that you have made must be strengthened (if the first impression was good, of course). If due to some unfortunate circumstance, you did not really create an impression you wanted to, you could call in order to rectify your mistakes.

What does one talk about after a date? If the date went well, that is, if you both enjoyed and you believe that things could work out between you, then you should ideally have no trouble looking for things to talk about. Tell the other how you had such a good time with them. Ask them whether they enjoyed. Then you could discuss about meeting up again.

The best time to call is 3-4 days after your first date. That gives the other person time to think and examine all the positives and negatives of the date. You may be a little uncomfortable giving the other time to rethink of all the follies you may have made, but it is for the best. A relationship can never work if either partner remains ignorant about the other’s drawbacks. Waiting for a few days also makes the other a little anxious about why you have not called so far or whether they made some mistake during the date. This makes them all the more eager to please when you do call up. Also, during this time, your date might just call you up and then you will know for sure that they did have a good time!

Calling immediately after a date or even on the next day is not a good idea. It is always better to keep the other in suspense about their success for some time. You don’t want to appear too easily pleased. Take some time to think about the date, or atleast appear to. Consider whether or not you can be happy with the person in question. It will always give a better impression if you have thought before reaching a decision. It will also be more flattering for the other person. If you call up too soon, you may be taken as a clingy person who will eventually suffocate the other person in a relationship. Remember a relationship requires you to give time and space to your partner.

A little thing like when to call makes a large difference to your relationship. So weigh your decisions before you act because every little thing counts!

-- ALAGARAJAN --

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