How to Get a girlfriend

Ok look... now after a long time im going to tell u guys how to get a girlfriend in my way!

This is actually pretty simple if you guys know what exactly women are looking for in a guy. To be honest, I can tell you precisely *WHY* you haven'tfound a girlfriend yet.( even i dont have girlfriend *evil grin ) lolz....

See, you may have your eyes on that special woman you would LIKE to be with, but she just doesn't feel attracted to you. ( because u are *******........... forget about it)

She does NOT feel the same way towards youthan you do to her.Why???? hmmm thats why im here guys to help u all..... its happenBecause you didn't press a woman's emotional trigger buttons that will make her attracted to you!

You see, you need to give a woman what she needsto feel sexually attracted to you. She may thinkyou're a nice guy and a good friend, but that'sas far as it goes. She doesn't see you as apotential boyfriend or lover.

And that really sucks ... so we need tochange that.ok

So what are you doing wrong?

What is itthat makes women tell you that "you are anice guy, but not really for her?"

Well for once ... you are a god-damn wussbag!

Women DON'T reject men simply because the mancan't offer her things like money, a muscularbody, a fancy sports-car or good-looks.That's not the case ... even though mostpeople THINK it is.

Look, it's not because women think you are aweirdo, dress like a bum or are not "handsome"
or "masculine" enough.

It's not because you think all those stunningwomen are out of your league.

There is something else.

You haven't found a girlfriend yet becausewomen don't like men who act like wimps and clingy
nice-guys!

So READ MY LIPS: In a woman's eyes ... you areprobably a wimp!

See, you have BEEN yourself all your life...and has it worked? Not really. But you don'twant to become a different person either andI respect that. The good thing is, you won'thave to change at all ... you just need to IMPROVE!

I need to show you what really works with women,and give you the necessary knowledge and some ofmy killer dating tips that actually work in thereal world.

Not just any kind of dating tips...I am goingto show you how ANYBODY, regardless of how rich,tall or handsome you are can meet and date thekind of women you've always wanted!

So why don't you have a girlfriend yet?

Because nobody has ever told you what todo to successfully attract women. How could
you? Most men aren't born with the gift ofmaking women laugh, giggle and sweeping themoff their feet.right.

It is an art, and if you've never reallyunderstood why women pick certain men overothers, you have some learning to do.

So here's what I want you to do:

STOP being a wuss!

- Don't kiss a woman's ass.

- Don't buy them drinks.

- Don't pay them any compliments.

- Don't invite them to dinner or to the movies.

- Don't bring flowers, chocolate, a cuddly-toy
  or ANYTHING at all!

It only shows a woman that you are a clingy,needy nice-guy who wants to BUY a woman's affection....and attraction cannot be bought, EVER!

If you do, she will either walk all over you orjust tell you that you are a nice guy, but "let'srather be friends!". And here's another thing.The more you want sex from her, a long-termrelationship or even just a kiss ... the lessyou will get it.

Women don't like what they can have right away.If you are too pushy, needy and "easy-to-get",you are not a challenge for any woman andtherefore BORING!

The key is to be interesting!

So STOP what you are doing RIGHT NOW...

and get it right!

-- ALAGARAJAN --

Why 'Nice Guys' NEVER Get The Girl

did You ever noticed something really 'STRANGE' about women?

 1) The most attractive and interesting women ALWAYS seem
  to be attracted to men who don't treat them very well?

 2) That the "nicer" you are to a woman the more she will act
  like "just a FRIEND" to you? Sometimes they even despise
  you for that.seriously ! most gurls do that....

What's going on here? Didn't your mommy say to you years
ago that you should be "NICE" to all girls? especially my mom. oh god!  

 I tell you exactly whats going on bro:

 Women AREN'T usually romantically attracted to "nice"
guys, or just to be straight forward wussies. Women are
attracted to MEN who are funny, confident, and mysterious.thats why no one know my secret ...haha

 Good looks certainly don't hurt like me, but if you ain't 6'2" tall ( im more than that ),
handsome ( of course )and buff, then you guys , have to make use
of your personality ...  

But really, being "nice" ISN'T going to do cut it with women

"How come all the women they have dated, married, and

beaten up are ALSO RICH AND FAMOUS?"

 These are supermodels and playmates of the year and such.
These women can date whoever they want. Tommy Lee was even
MARRIED to both Heather Locklear AND Pamela Anderson.

 They didn't need Tommy Lee for his bank account or his fame
man ... they are obviously dating these guys for SOME OTHER
REASON!

 You following me?

 So what's the big deal here? And more importantly,
how can you use this information to be more successful
with women and dating?

 You have to understand the following:

 1) Women make decisions very, very quickly about
 whether a man is going to be "just a friend" or if
 he is suitable for a relationship. But once her decision
 is made, it will stay that way!

 2) These decisions are made "subconsciously",
 meaning that women make all of them quickly and and
 automatically! They aren't even aware of it, they just DO it
 ... and that's within minutes.

 3) But, If you know how, you can make her feel 'attracted'
 to you instead of her having 'friends' feelings towards you.

 4) I know you don't wanna be her friend, you want her to be
 your girlfriend and have sex with her right? The first way to do
 that is to stop acting "nice" and start acting, well... something
 else, and I DON'T mean "not nice". The whole idea is making
 it FUN and her life boring without you.

 So what DOES attract women? And how do you do it exactly?

 For starters, there are certain qualities you have to adopt:
Be funny & witty, be confident & ballsy and be mysterious.

 Before I talk about each, I first have to remind you that WOMEN
DON'T USUALLY MAKE SENSE. Remember that.

 Remember when you had your first driving lesson? It made
perfect sense when you started out ... turn the wheel left
and go left, turn it right and go right.

 But do you remember when you had to learn how to back up and
how to do a reverse parking? Man, this was a whole thing.
Everything that used to work now works in a DIFFERENT way.

 It does take little time to get the hang of it, but once you
DO, then you can do it ANYTIME you want.

Now, women are VERY similar. At first it might be confusing.
You have to try things that don't seem to make sense but
again once you get the hang of it and actually see what works,
you can do it anytime ...

Just like trying to reverse park that car into
that darn small spot!

 As much as many women would hate to admit it,
there's something very ATTRACTIVE about a man who
is just a little more confident than he should be.

 If you are able to tweak this into being 'cheeky', then my
friend you have the ultimate trait to play with those girls you
always wanted!

 Here are a few ways to use this idea:

 1) When you meet a girl the first time, tease her about
 something. Here's an example, say: "Sooo tell me ...
 what's up with girls and the color pink? ... Oh I know,
 chocolate-discounts at the mall, ha ... you are such a girl"
 or "So ... when are we getting married?" or "Cool, you
 gonna buy me a drink then?".

 If you tease a woman, it shows that you're NOT INTIMIDATED
by her, that you have a fun sense of humor. And they can't
help but to LOVE it.

 KEY: Make sure you say something FUNNY. If you
don't know how to be funny, get a book on it. The test:
If she's not laughing, then it wasn't funny!

 2) Be COOL. Look, don't act like you are on your first date.
 Women certainly don't want to be around a chump who acts like
 he's on a date with Jessica Simpson. Treat her like your bratty
 little sister and play with her.

 You see, attractive women are approached and hit on
all the time so you HAVE to be different here. This "just
a little too confident" attitude is very attractive to women...
ESPECIALLY when it's combined with humor.

 3) DON'T answer her a direct answer. Play around a bit.
 If she asks you questions such as "What do you do" or "Tell me
 something about yourself", then don't answer with something
 like "Oh yeah ... I'm a systems analyst" or "I'm the department
 manager of such and such".

 This just ISN'T interesting to women!

 Answer with funny answers, and don't give her what she wants.
For instance, say "Yeah, I work in this escort agency where I
have to meet these rich women and give them a lift home in their
own car because they had too much to drink, Sexy job eh?."

 Do you get it? Keep it up and KEEP her laughing.

 It's important to remember that I'm not telling
you to be mean, or to be a jerk to women. I'm
telling you to START being confident, funny, and
mysterious.

-- ALAGARAJAN --

Number Numerology

If you were born on the 1st, 10th, 19th, 28th of any month you are number 1.

If you were born on the 2nd, 11th, 20th, 29th of any month then you are number 2.

If you were born on the 3rd, 12th, 21st, 30th of any month then you are number 3.

If you were born on the 4th, 13th, 22nd, 31st of any month then you are number 4.

If you were born on the 5th, 14th, 23rd of any month then you are number 5.

If you were born on the 6th, 15th, 24th of any month then you are number 6.

If you were born on the 7th, 16th, 25th of any month then you are number 7.

If you were born on the 8th, 17th, 26th of any month then you are number 8.

If you were born on the 9th, 18th, 27th of any month then you are number 9.

 

Number 1

You are smart, frank, funny, stubborn, hardworking, honest, jealous on competing basis, kind hearted, friendly, and authoritative. Famous Person always want to be and regarded as First on position, they are often like to be independent, will never be under others, self confident people! You are most likely to fall in love in the younger age, but will get married when you mature! You are likely to have problems with peopl e who have opposite views and you are most likely to take revenge over your enemies in a long time basis. You are a spender, but you will have a good profession in the future. If you are guy, you will be very popular that everybody will have mental attraction and respect you. You can go anywhere from the local shop to the heart of the parliament because you are positive and talented in numerous issues!! But make sure in your life, you will always have some people who will work hard to support. Because of your smart behavior, you will be hated by some people too. Your family life is very cool; you will have a very nice partner & wonderful children. You are Pioneer, independent & Original.

Your best match is 4, 6, 8; good matches are 3, 5, 7.

 

Number 2

No matter what, you will be loved by every one because your ruler is the Moon and every one loves the Moon,huh!! Well, you are a person who daydream a lot. You have very low-self confidence, you need back up for every move in your life. You are very much unpredictable means you do change according to time and circumstances. Selfish and have a very strong sense of musical, artistic talent, and verbal communication. Your attitudes are like the Moon comes to Gloom and fade away so everybody can expect changes in you. You can be a next Mahatma Gandhi who is peace loving or you can be a Hitler who wants to destroy the mankind and peace. I mean in the community and your own home. If you really have a deep thought about your own, believe in God, you can feel the difference which will make you stronger! Most of the time your words are a kind of would be happening. True! You can predict the situation. You will become poets, writers, or any artistic business 
people! You are not strong in love, so you will be there and here till you get marry. If you are a girl, you will be a responsible woman in the whole family. If you are a man, you will involve in fights and arguments in the family or vice-versa. You are gentle, intuitive with a broad vision, a power behind the scenes, well balanced people!!!

Your best match is 2, 5, and 9 no other people can put up with you!!!

Number 3

You are a person of hard hearted, selfish most of the times, religious, loves to climb up in your life. You always tend to have 
lots of problems within your family in the early stages but you will put up with everything. You have strong word power, pretty happy face,so wherever you go, you always have got what you wanted!!! And from the birth you always wanted to work hard in order to achieve something. You will not get anything without hard work! When you reach a Man/Woman age! , you want other younger listen to you because you want younger people to respect older people. You do set so many examples to others. Generally you re not a cool person. It's not easy dealing with you! But once you like someone's attitude, then here you go. It will be a lasting friendship. You always have respect from others. Your life seems to have lots of worries and problems but they won't be long. You will always have brilliant kids!!! You love money a bit too much so temptation will. Push you to endless trying. If you are a guy, you will be looking after your family and helping friends, and will spend a life time just being generous and (except 21st born Men) you will be such an example of how to be in the culture & Life!!! If you are girl, then it's your good character and hardworking attitude you always follow. You are a Freedom Lover, Creative Ambition focused who brings Beauty, Hope & Joy to this world!!!

Your best match are 6, 9; Good matches are 1, 3, 5.

Number 4

You are very stubborn and very hard working. You have rough word power which might put lots of people away from you. You may cause nuisance to others if you are a man. You often understand others well and their problems. If you are a girl you are very good with studies and arts. If you are guy you spend most of the time after girl friends. You will have fun life with mates & girls. Your friends will spend your time & money and get away with their life and you will become empty handed and don't know what to do, so be careful!! You love to spend anyway!!! Your good will is you are always there to help family and friends. You always fall in love in younger age as well. You need to be careful of people who will take advantage of your kind heart and beware of your relations too. You are practical, patient, persistent, a bit old-fashioned. 

You best matches are 1, 8; Good matches are 5, 6, 7.

Number 5

You are very popular within the community. You can get things done by just chatting to even enemies! You have a pretty good business mind. You are someone who acts on impulse. You will be famous if you open up a business, get involve in share dealings, music etc. Very popular with sense of humor, you are the one your friends and families will always ask for help and you are the one actually get money on credit and help your friends!! You will have more than 1 relationship, but when you get settle down you will be a bit selfish. Anyway, because your other half will have a pretty good amount of control in you. Be careful you tend to go for other relationships/contacts even you are married at times because of your popularity. You are someone who gets along with anyone because the number 5 is the middle number. You like changes and freedom. You are an Explorer with Magic on your face. You learn your life through experience and it's your Best Teacher!!!

 Your best matches are 1, 2, 9; Good matches are 6, 8.

Number 6

You are born to enjoy. You don't care about others, you always want to enjoy your life time. You are a person. You will be very good in either education or in business management! You are talented, kind (but only with people who you think are nice), beautiful girls and guys. Popular and more than lucky with anything in their Lives. All the goodness does comes to you. The mind and body is just made perfect. If you are a number 6 man, you will experience looks from most girls and will involve in more than few relationships until you get marry!!! If you are girl, most of them will get marry/engage early. You are caring towards your family and friends. You are a person of Compassion, Comfort & Fairness, Good judgment, and after all you can heal this world to make peace forever because you have great power of caring.

Your best matches are 1, 6, 9. Good matches are 4, 5.

 

Number 7

You have got the attraction to anyone out there. You are realistic, confident, happy, a talented individual in your Education, Music, Arts, Singing, and most importantly Acting. You have real problems with bad temper!! If you are girl, you are popular with the subjects listed above, you give up things for your parents, I mean you value your family status a lot. You will be in the top rank when you reach a certain age! If you are a guy, you are popular with Girl s. You are a very talented too! Most of the number 7s faces lots of problems with their marriage life. Only a very few are happy!! It's probably the Lord give you all sort of humans talents and you are about to suffer in family life, so you need to get ready looking for a partner rather than waiting. If you don't, then you might end-up single!!! You are wonderful, Friendly, Artistic, Happy person. You are born to contribute lot to this world!!! 

Your best match is 2. Good matches are 1, 4.

 

Number 8

You are a very strong personality, there's no one out there will understand you. You are very good at pointing your finger at some thing!!! You are more likely to suffer from the early age poverty. If your times are not good you might lose either of your parents and end up looking after your entire family. You often suffer all the way in life. The problems will not allow you to tudy further, but you will learn the life in a very practical way!!! You are the one will fight for justice and may die in the war too!!! You are normally very reserved with handful of friends and most of the time, live life lonely and always prepared to help. Well, once you get marry (which is often late) then your bad lucks will go away a bit, then you become safe. Beware of un-expected problems from the terror, government, poisonous animals & accidents. You are someone with discipline, persistence, courage which will t ake you to the Success! You ar e a Great part of a team, family and a fighter!!!

 Your Best matches are 1, 4, 8. Good match is 5.

Number 9

Hey, you guys are the un-compatible people in the world, you are so strong, physically and mentally. You often have big-aims. You will work hard and hard to get there, normally you suffer in the early age from family's problems and generally you will have fighting life, but when you achieve what you have done, it's always a big-task!! You are so much respected in the community. You are a person who can make a challenge and successfully finish the matter off. You are very naughty in your younger age, often beaten up by your parents, and involve in fights and you seemed to have lots of injuries in your life time, but when you grow, you become calm and macho type!!! Tell you what, Love is not an easy matter for you. You are good in engineering or banking jobs because people always trust you! Your family life is very good, but will have worries over your children. Your qualities are humanitarian, patient, quick witted & compassionate, You are born to achieve targets and serve every one all equally without any prejudice! You are totally a Role Model to everybody in the world for a Great Inspiration!!!

Your best matches are 3, 5, 6, 9; Good match is 2.

-- ALAGARAJAN --

Dating Rules

The problem with the dating game is that there are dating rules to follow and most of them we forget as we grow older. You see, when we are young our fellow friends at school and college reinforce the way things should be done when dealing with potential dates. Yes you should wear that, no you never say that, yes you should do this, but no you never do that. Then we grow up. For a time we are completely aware of the rules of dating and we practice those rules every time we meet someone. But then we meet someone perhaps, fall in love and have a relationship. Little by little the things we learned over our formative years when dealing with the fairer sex are lost and are in fact unlearned.
 
Then one day we are unwillingly thrust back onto the dating scene only to find that we start behaving like 12 year olds. We call our dates too often, we are constantly available, we wear the wrong clothes, laugh at bad jokes like a fool, date the wrong people and generally get it all badly wrong. Then we get hurt or taken for a ride. Of course there will be some of you reading this that are the very epitome of dating sophistication, but the truth is, when you lose your heart you also lose your head . If you are going to date well then give these key do's and don'ts of dating some serious consideration. Dating rules are very important if you want to win and keep your perfect match.

 

Dating Rules - Do's

1. Do try to look your best and be punctual on dates
 
2. Do have fun when dating. I know the subject of Mr. or Miss Right is serious but dating is fun too so keep it that way.
 
3. Do flatter and compliment your date on the way they look and the things they wear. People tend to go to a lot of effort on a date (hopefully) so being told that you are looking good is a nice thing to hear.
 
4. Be interested and interesting. As the Pet Shop Boys once said, I was never bored because I was never being boring" or something similar. You get my drift. 
 
5. Do tell someone if you are not interested in dating them again. Being lied to and hopes kept alive is an evil and malicious act (yes I mean it that strongly). If you don't want to see someone again then let them know that in the nicest possible way you can.
 
6. Do date the type of people you like and are attracted to, whatever your friends may say. Approval by your peers doesn't prove a thing.
 
7. Do stay positive even when dates don't end well. It is most certainly true that you will date a few frogs before you find a prince. Along the way you will meet some nice people too and make some good contacts possibly. 
 
8. Dating is a creative diversion, it requires concentration and energy so when you are dating keep some plans in the forefront of your mind and allow dating to take you to places you always wanted to visit within your own city.
 
9. Do make dating happen for yourself. People will not come and ring your bell from nowhere. Dating requires positive action so go out there and meet people, as many people as you can. Practice your chat and flirting on shop workers, bar attendants, anywhere and everywhere. Being nice to people is very sexy and great fun.
 
10. Do surround yourself with positive like minded people who are also dating. Think about the girls from Sex and the City and how they assist each other in dating and matters of romance. Negative friends who don't condone the dating scene or don't understand it will only help lower your own expectations and make you feel negative.
 
Dating Rules - Don'ts
 
1. Never call someone more than once a day unless they reply. Desperation and instability are huge turn offs.
 
2. Don't date the people who you usually find dump you. You may be generally attracted to bastards but that will not get you anywhere except hurt.
 
3. For men, never ever be late for a date, even if you have a very good reason. Women should never be kept waiting and should never have to seat themselves - ever.
 
4. Never tell lies to your date or pretend anything about your life that isn't true. If this is your perfect match for God's sake do not allow it to be ruined by some silly lie told early on. 
 
5. Never be too available. Being available every night of the week and at the end of every whimsical phone call or possible rendezvous means you are making yourself uninteresting and a possible doormat. Be busy, be unavailable generally and be interesting.
 
6. Don't give away too much about yourself at the start. People love enigma and mystery. Revealing to your new date your inner most secrets on date number two will quickly ruin everything. A small bit at a time people.
 
7. Never check other people out when you are with your date. You may think you are subtle , your date will be heading for the door. Have the courtesy of concentrating solely on your date when you are with them.
 
8. Don't be rude or get drunk on a date. Courtesy and manners will get you everywhere.
 
9. Don't ignore your personal safety when dating. Have a cellular phone and keep it charged, tell your friends where you are going and be safe. Date at first in well known public places and never ever be pushed into anything you are not happy with.
 
10. Don't give out personal information like home phone numbers and addresses on a first date. Keep them until you are sure of your date and the future possibilities.
 
11. Don't have sex on a first date if you ever want to see your new date again. If you like them and are interested in them, sex on a first date will usually ruin everything. Its too much too soon and is not the way of romance. Believe me I am ( Alagarajan ) 100% certain on this.haha
 
12. Never date a married person. They will not leave their husbands or wives for you (except exceptionally rarely). Married dating is the sure fire way to misery, lies, deceit, lack of self respect and loss of romance. If you are married, separate first. If you are single, don't be a shoulder to cry on, you deserve far better.

-- ALAGARAJAN --

Love's Moments

There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real! and seriously i do that....

When the door of happiness closes, another opens,thats natural but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has been opened for us.

Don't go for looks; they can deceive. Don't go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Find the one that makes your heart smile.

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy.

The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.

Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with a tear.

The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

Thats Life.....

-- ALAGARAJAN --

I Love You in 100 Language

English - I love you
Afrikaans - Ek het jou lief
Albanian - Te dua
Arabic - Ana behibak (to male)
Arabic - Ana behibek (to female)
Armenian - Yes kez sirumen
Bambara - M'bi fe
Bangla - Aamee tuma ke bhalo aashi
Belarusian - Ya tabe kahayu
Bisaya - Nahigugma ako kanimo
Bulgarian - Obicham te
Cambodian - Soro lahn nhee ah
Cantonese Chinese - Ngo oiy ney a
Catalan - T'estimo
Cheyenne - Ne mohotatse
Chichewa - Ndimakukonda
Corsican - Ti tengu caru (to male)
Creol - Mi aime jou
Croatian - Volim te
Czech - Miluji te
Danish - Jeg Elsker Dig
Dutch - Ik hou van jou
Esperanto - Mi amas vin
Estonian - Ma armastan sind
Ethiopian - Afgreki'
Faroese - Eg elski teg
Farsi - Doset daram
Filipino - Mahal kita
Finnish - Mina rakastan sinua
French - Je t'aime, Je t'adore
Frisian - Ik hâld fan dy
Gaelic - Ta gra agam ort
Georgian - Mikvarhar
German - Ich liebe dich
Greek - S'agapo
Gujarati - Hoo thunay prem karoo choo
Hiligaynon - Palangga ko ikaw
Hawaiian - Aloha Au Ia`oe (Thanks Craig)
Hebrew - Ani ohev otah (to female)
Hebrew - Ani ohev et otha (to male)
Hiligaynon - Guina higugma ko ikaw
Hindi - Hum Tumhe Pyar Karte hae
Hmong - Kuv hlub koj
Hungarian - Szeretlek
Icelandic - Eg elska tig
Ilonggo - Palangga ko ikaw
Indonesian - Saya cinta padamu
Inuit - Negligevapse
Irish - Taim i' ngra leat
Italian - Ti amo
Japanese - Aishiteru
Korean - Sarang Heyo
Latin - Te amo
Latvian - Es tevi miilu
Lebanese - Bahibak
Lithuanian - Tave myliu
Malay - Saya cintakan mu / Aku cinta padamu
Malayalam - Njan Ninne Premikunnu
Mandarin Chinese - Wo ai ni
Marathi - Me tula prem karto
Mohawk - Kanbhik
Moroccan - Ana moajaba bik
Navaho - Ayor anosh'ni
Norwegian - Jeg Elsker Deg
Pandacan - Syota na kita!!
Papiamento - Mi ta stimabo
Persian - Doo-set daaram
Polish - Kocham Ciebie
Portuguese - Eu te amo
Romanian - Te iubesc
Russian - Ya tebya liubliu
Scot Gaelic - Tha gra\dh agam ort
Serbian - Volim te
Sindhi - Maa tokhe pyar kendo ahyan
Sioux - Techihhila
Slovak - Lu`bim ta
Slovenian - Ljubim te
Spanish - Te quiero / Te amo
Swahili - Ninapenda wewe
Swedish - Jag alskar dig
Swiss-German - Ich lieb Di
Tagalog - Mahal kita
Taiwanese - Wa ga ei li
Tahitian - Ua Here Vau Ia Oe
Tamil - Nan unnai kathalikaraen
Thai - Chan rak khun (to male)
Turkish - Seni Seviyorum
Ukrainian - Ya tebe kahayu
Urdu - mai aap say pyaar karta hoo
Vietnamese - Anh ye^u em (to female)
Vietnamese - Em ye^u anh (to male)
Welsh - 'Rwy'n dy garu di
Yiddish - Ikh hob dikh
Yoruba - Mo ni fe

-- ALAGARAJAN --

7 wonders love Secrets

Have you ever felt frustrated trying to get the one you want to want you back? Have you ever felt like the cause was hopeless and there's just nothing you can do to win their heart?

Such frustrations are common. All human beings are subject to them. While there is no way to completely avoid them, there is a way to overcome them and find success. The way requires a basic understanding of those principles that motivate the human heart, followed by a patient application of those principles.

If you will systematically apply those principles in a well thought out strategy, you will ultimately reap the rewards of your efforts.

Applying the principles is up to you, but today I wanted to share with you a few truths relating to love and romance:

• "In Love" is a form of dependency. Therefore, if you want someone to be in love with you, you will have to make up your mind to meet their emotional needs so that they can grow dependent upon you. This includes hundreds of hours of listening to them while they talk while you, for the most part, are just attentively silent.

• People are attracted to independence and repulsed by those who seem to cling. Therefore, to avoid scaring off a potential love you must throw in a lot of apparent aloofness while trying to win them. If you think this may confuse the one you want about your real intentions, you're right. Sorry, but that's just the way it needs to be in the early stages of romance.

• People want what they can't have. Therefore, you have to hold back form giving yourself completely to the one you want at the first indications they're starting to become attracted to you. Instead of giving the dog the whole steak at once, feed it to him/her one bite at a time, over an extended period of time.

• I'm speaking here of deeply shared feelings and your valuable time. Be careful with how much time and feeling you give to the one you want. As to sexual involvement, that should be withheld until after the marriage vows, or you'll reduce their incentive to get there. Why buy the cow when the milk is free?

• People's conscious decisions are subconsciously motivated. Therefore, don't be too concerned by what the one you want says they think they want, or acts like they think they want. You should act on principle and eventually they'll realize that what they really want is you.

• People are most drawn to a person with a positive and confident self-image. Therefore, resist the temptation to spill your feelings of self-doubt. Nothing is a bigger turn-off than somebody who insists on bursting your bubble and destroying the image they want to have of you.

• People's attitudes are really a reflection of what you think of them. Therefore, while not wearing your heart on your sleeve, you must still prove though your actions that your friendship to them is a committed one. This takes time.

• The longer a relationship grows, the stronger it becomes. Therefore, if you mess up along the way, take comfort in the fact that tomorrow is another day, and the fact that you prove you have lasted and learned from yesterday's hardships, will in itself increase their feelings of commitment to you in the long run.

-- ALAGARAJAN --